Dear Dad, thank you. Or; the second worst day of my life.

When I was in grade 12, someone had the bright idea of all of us getting together and giving blood. The idea was with less blood in our system we could get more drunk. I didn’t say it was good idea. A long story short, I ended up fainting in front of the whole student body and having my bladder release. In other words, I passed out and pissed myself in front of the whole school.

That was the worst day of my life.

The second worst day of my life was putting Abby’s crib together.

My loving wife did a great deal of research for our daughter’s furniture and I cannot fault her on any of her decisions. Except one. Listen up people, “Some Assembly Required” is code for “There is crap load of assembly coming your way! In fact, you should block out the whole weekend”. It’s not really her fault. But still, I have to blame someone.

This effin’ thing was ridiculous. There was not one piece that came pre-assembled. Not that big a deal, right? Trust me when I say this, any guy who has ever assembled anything above an IKEA wall shelf will understand. It is very difficult to hold two pieces of wood together and drill a screw into place. My wife tried to help, but she was pregnant and that ain’t right. Asking a pregnant woman to help. The guy I referred to earlier in this paragraph understands.

Once I manage to hold the two pieces of wood together and evolve that third arm I’ve  been working on in order to grab the drill and screw, I notice, wait…what the hell? Where are the guide holes? You mean to tell me I have to drill my own friggin’ guide holes!

And thus began the first round of cursing…

After yelling at the crib materials, yelling at the manufacture and yelling at my wife [sorry about that by the way] I got back to work. I drilled the guide holes, got the wood in place and grab the drill and screw and then…seriously?! You got to be kidding me. The manufactures in their hellish mission to force my wife to divorce me have managed to build this thing so as to make it impossible to use a drill. I’ve got to hand screw all these screws. Oh well, on the bright side, I now have the largest forearms of anyone I know.

And thus began the second round of cursing…

There I am, cursing, sweating, and throwing stuff aside. My wife is standing by being as supportive as possible trying not to stare at my freakishly large, bulging forearm muscles. I am this close to chucking the whole thing out the window and clearing out a drawer for Abby to sleep in when the thought dawns on me. Abby will never thank me for this. I will never get kudos from the person I’m doing this for. As far as she will be concerned, this crib has always existed. She’ll never understand nor appreciate my pain, my anguish, my frustration. The only one who will know is my wife and she’s in the bedroom packing her things having had enough of my bullshit.

Eff this. I pick the thing up and get to the top of the stairs. I’ve got the aborted half crib over my head all set to chuck it when I have another revelation. My dad built my crib. Someone had to have built it and my dad wasn’t the kind of guy to let others do his work for him. In fact, there was a lot of stuff my dad did that I not only never said thank you for, but never even knew thanks were to be given. What about all those gifts from Santa? What about that really sweet jumpy thing I had? There’s no way that came with the house.

I began to wonder if he carried on then the way I was getting on now. He was probably worst. You think I have a temper…Pft…you ain’t seen nothing. I wouldn’t be surprised if he shot a small woodland creature out of frustration. But he did it all the same. He put that thing together knowing he was never going to get thanks. And now I’m doing the same…circle of life sort of stuff, right? Hakuna Matata…

Hold on. Wait a second… I can change that right now. I can make up for all that unheralded work. I can end the cycle right here right now. Dear dad, for all the stuff you did that I never appreciated or said thank you for…thanks. The crib was awesome and that jumpy thing was a sweet, sweet ride. I’m sorry it took so long.

It’s weird how it took 33 years and a drastic life change for me to come to this realization. And in 33 years, I’ll be looking forward to Abby saying pretty much the exact same thing.

Fickleness, thy name is Christmas morning.

Sorry for the delay on posting…not that I expect you were waiting or anything. I’m sure you were busy doing your own thing. If you were like me, you were celebrating the holidays. This years Christmas was as close to perfect as I can think. The presents were a plenty. All my family living in the area came over for Christmas Breakfast. All in all, it was a great Christmas.

The aftermath I could do without. We’re still recovering. It was like someone went to Dollarama and bought 40 bucks of Christmas paper. Then bought a half stick of TNT at the hardware store and set the whole thing of in my living room. Even now as I survey the wrapping paper, wasteland that is my living room I don’t really know how this happened. We started out so responsible. We had just one gift. But, just like that catchy tune we all know, you get one gitft and it leads to another. You get two gifts, to go with the others. Then you get three gifts, and oh brother…

But, this post is not about my contributions to the death of mother earth. Instead, I would like to talk about something that happened on Christmas morning that is causing me some concern.

My daughter opened up a gift and received a Mickey Mouse doll. I’m not sure if I’ve covered this in the past, but Abby loves Mickey Mouse Clubhouse. She loves it. When she opened the gift and saw Mickey Staring back at her…well, she lost it. She started doing her two step “I’m-so-Freaking-Excited-I-Don’t-Know-What-To-Do” dance and pushed the box at me. I’m pretty sure this is toddler for “Here. Make yourself useful and open this”. Once the doll is out of the box, she takes it and runs over to her coloring table.

Abby’s coloring table has two chairs. One of these chairs is always occupied by a Winnie the Pooh doll. She has played and colored with Winnie the Pooh ever since she started using that table. She’ll sit there and color something and then hold it up so Winnie can see. Ever so often she’ll give Winnie a kiss. She loves Winnie. Or so, I thought. Abby gets to the table, grabs a hold of Winnie’s ear and whips him to the ground and puts Mickey in the chair of honour. She threw Winnie almost three feet and didn’t look back. I’ve seen scenes from “Goodfellas” that had more tenderness than Abby displayed in her treatment of Winnie.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m glad she loves her gift. I’m glad she’s happy. I am a little worried at how quickly she got rid of something she once loved so much. Am I this replaceable? Will I find myself thrown aside as soon as something or someone cooler comes along? I suppose that as the father of a little girl, this will eventually happen. I promise you this, when it does happen, I’ll put up more of a fight than that loser Winnie.

Fickleness, thy name is Christmas morning.

Sorry for the delay on posting…not that I expect you were waiting or anything. I’m sure you were busy doing your own thing. If you were like me, you were celebrating the holidays. This years Christmas was as close to perfect as I can think. The presents were a plenty. All my family living in the area came over for Christmas Breakfast. All in all, it was a great Christmas.

The aftermath I could do without. We’re still recovering. It was like someone went to Dollarama and bought 40 bucks of Christmas paper. Then bought a half stick of TNT at the hardware store and set the whole thing of in my living room. Even now as I survey the wrapping paper, wasteland that is my living room I don’t really know how this happened. We started out so responsible. We had just one gift. But, just like that catchy tune we all know, you get one gitft and it leads to another. You get two gifts, to go with the others. Then you get three gifts, and oh brother…

But, this post is not about my contributions to the death of mother earth. Instead, I would like to talk about something happened on Christmas morning that is causing me some concern.

My daughter opened up a gift and received a Mickey Mouse doll. I’m not sure if I’ve covered this in the past, but Abby loves Mickey Mouse Clubhouse. She loves it. When she opened the gift and saw Mickey Staring back at her…well, she lost it. She started doing her two step “I’m-so-Freaking-Excited-I-Don’t-Know-What-To-Do” dance and pushed the box at me. I’m pretty sure this is toddler for “Here. Make yourself useful and open this”. Once the doll is out of the box, she takes it and runs over to her coloring table.

Abby’s coloring table has two chairs. One of these chairs is always occupied by a Winnie the Pooh doll. She has played and colored with Winnie the Pooh ever since she started using that table. She’ll sit there and color something and then hold it up so Winnie can see. Ever so often she’ll give Winnie a kiss. She loves Winnie. Or so, I thought. Abby gets to the table, grabs a hold of Winnie’s ear and whips him to the ground and puts Mickey in the chair of honour. She threw Winnie almost three feet and didn’t look back. I’ve seen scenes from “Goodfellas” that had more tenderness than Abby displayed in her treatment of Winnie.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m glad she loves her gift. I’m glad she’s happy. I am a little worried at how quickly she got rid of something she once loved so much. Am I this replaceable? Will I find myself thrown aside as soon as something or someone cooler comes along? I suppose that as the father of a little girl, this will eventually happen. I promise you this, when it does happen, I’ll put up more of a fight than that loser Winnie.

Merry Christmas!

OMG….

Abby’s 2^nd Christmas is over. She had a lot of fun. I learnt many lessons. Enough to fill this lil’ ol’ blog for weeks to come.

I’m a little busy at the moment. Trying to work my way through the gift wrap, tissue paper and cast of packaging. I can’t dedicate the time needed to write something enjoyable. However, I have a few minuets at the moment and just wanted to wish you all a Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays and hope you have a great happy new year.

Adventures of Dad.

Merry Christmas!

OMG….

Abby’s 2^nd Christmas is over. She had a lot of fun. I learnt many lessons. Enough to fill this lil’ ol’ blog for weeks to come.

I’m a little busy at the moment. Trying to work my way through the gift wrap, tissue paper and cast of packaging. I can’t dedicate the time needed to write something enjoyable. However, I have a few minuets at the moment and just wanted to wish you all a Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays and hope you have a great happy new year.

Adventures of Dad.

The mathematics of parenting: part 3 sleeping

I assume that by this point you have read the first two parts of this three part series; pooping and feeding. Now we turn to sleeping, the final leg of the all-a-baby-is-good-for trinity. Right off the bat I have to clarify something that has been bothering me since my daughter came into my life. Why is it that we have come to use the phrase “Sleeping like a Baby”? It is one of the great mysteries of the English language. In my personal experience, we could use the phrase “Sleeping like a Vietnam Vet Suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder Accompanied by Serious Addiction Issues” and it would describe the same thing. They both wake up every three to four hours screaming at the top of their lungs and no matter how hard you try, you can’t get them to tell you what’s wrong.

Babies sleeping soundly!? Humph…

Add to this, the fact that Abby was a colicky baby and brother; you’ve got some serious stress. Parents with a colic baby are always trying to explain exactly how bad it is. To give you an idea of how bad it is, I once got so mad at someone that I wished they contracted the dreaded flesh eating disease. I wouldn’t wish a colicky baby on anyone. Ever.

And if you’re one of these parents with a perfect baby that is sleeping through the night at day 7, do not give advice to parents of colicky babies. It doesn’t help and you just come of as a jerkface.

“Have you tried swaddling them?”

“No way?! Swaddling them, you say? Can’t say I’ve tried that. I’ve just been throwing wads of tissues soaked with my own frustrated tears at her for the last 18 hours. Maybe I’ll try swaddling”

“Gripe water?”

“Gripe This!”

And before you even suggest it, I already have multiple copies of “Happiest Baby on the Block”. Dr. Karp can suck it.

Trust me when I say this. If it has been suggested by any source over the course of the last 150, 000 years of human history, we’ve tried it. Your advice taken from the pages of the last issues of Today’s Parent is going to do squat. If your baby wasn’t colic, you won’t understand and if your baby was colic, I am so very, very sorry for you.

To sleep,

To sleep perchance to get five friggin’ minuets to myself without you screaming and/or spiting up on me.

Ahh…there’s the rub.

And the only way I have found to do that is to rock them. I do not mean to suggest rocking them until they fall asleep. I mean, rock them until you fall asleep. The minute you think they are asleep and you decide to put them back in the crib is the minute you’re starting the whole thing over again.

 So how long do you rock them for, you might ask. It might be easier to tell you how far to rock them.

When Abby was first born, my wife overruled me and we got one of the more expensive gliders available at the time. For this fact alone, my wife is the smartest woman alive. I figure one complete rock in our glider equaled about 18 inches, 9 inches going forward, 9 inches going back. After rocking for hours on end, you start to play little games. One of these games is to time how long it takes to rock 100 complete rocks. This game sucks and eventually you start timing how long it takes you to do 1000 rocks.

It takes me just over 20 minuets to do 1000 rocks. I figure out of every 24 hours, I spent 8 of those rocking Abby to sleep. Don’t believe me? Have you read Dostoevsky Crime and Punishment? I have. Have you read Steinbeck’s East of Eden? I have. F. Scott’s Fitzgerald’s the Great Gatsby? I have, twice. I could go on for 14 other novels, but I think you get the idea.

So now for the math. It breaks down like this…

18 inches/rock X 1000 Rocks X (8hours X 60minutes)/20 =

Or…

18 inches/rocks X 1000 rocks X 24 units of rocking = 432,000 inches

Or in feet…

432,000 inches / 12 = 36,000 feet

Or in miles…

36,000 feet / 5280 = 6.82 miles

But wait…I’m Canadian… what’s that in real distances…

6.82 miles X 1.61 = 10.98 kilometers

Think about that for a second. In just four months I managed to rock more than the distance of an Olympic track and field event. People don’t travel that far for a fun run raising money to help their local zoo. I sure hope my wife got the bumper to bumper extended kilometer coverage on that glider.

The mathematics of parenting: Part 2 feeding

My last post looked at the mathematics of poop. I think it we all can agree that one post about poop per blog is enough. So let’s leave that topic behind [geez, once you start with the puns it’s hard to stop] and move on to the next topic in my three part series, food. Obviously, if the stuff comes out, it’s got to go in first.

I was actually a little hesitant to post this entry. Turns out there are some people out there who are very much against bottle feeding. If you don’t believe me, Google “Old Navy Formula Feed Onesie” and you’ll see what I’m talking about. When I told my wife about my concerns she said that I should post anyways. She pointed out that I started this blog as a source of information and a way to express my particular views. When I said I was still unsure, she called me a pussy and, well, here we are.

I want to state that I have no strong opinions one way or the other as to the ethics of bottle vs. breast feeding. If you breast feed, awesome. If you bottle feed, also awesome. I’m more concerned that you feed your child, than how you feed you child. And brother, are you going to feed.

Most people say a parent can begin introducing solid foods into your child’s diet anywhere from 4-6months. I cannot tell you exactly when we started feeding solids to Abby. Everything before her first birthday is a sleep deprived haze. All I know for certain is that my wife was very much against my attempt to feed Abby bacon at 9 months. Personally, I think she’s being overprotective. Bacon is delicious. For the purpose of this series, I’m going to assume we started around 4 months. The reason for this will become apparent in the final part of this series.

For the first 2 months of their lives a newborn will consume 1.5-3 oz of formula every 2-3 hours. And that’s every 2-3 hours. There is no average here. The average adult needs 7.5 hours of sleep. This disparage is the cruelest joke nature has played on the new parent.

Another interesting fact is that while the baby consumes 3 fluid oz of food, they’ll spit up any where from 4-5 liters of fluid all over you. Whoever is designing these spit up blankets is some kind of idiot. I’ve got baby puke all over my lower back and into my back pocket. The back of my new Hugo Boss shirt [my only Hugo Boss shirt] is complete ruined. But that 4 inch square on my shoulder is nice and dry. They need to start designing these things with a scoop or something. The first time you get baby vomit running down the nap of your neck and down your front and back, is a special moment that should be cherished for ever.

Any way, let’s do some math:

3 oz X (24/2) = 36 oz/day X 30 days = 1080 oz

After the first 2 months baby starts to eats more. Now it’s 4-6 oz every 3-4 hours.

6 oz X (24/3) = 48 oz/day X 30 days = 1440 oz

For a grand total of

1080 + 1440 = 2520 oz

Not much right. An ounce is only wee. 2520 ounces is just a little more wee. But what if we relate that into terms that guys like me can understand. I am talking about reducing this to the ice cold beer facts. When we convert 2520 ounces into milliliters we get 74525 ml. My favorite beer, Moosehead, comes in 341 ml bottles. Doing simple math we get…

74525/ 341 = 218.5 beers/12 = 18 cases of the good stuff.

Kind of makes you thirsty, doesn’t it.